Acting Squirrelly
This is a post written exactly one year ago, when my daughter was beginning her freshman year at New York University. Next time, I’ll describe our adventures in getting her to NYU for her sophomore year.
Ten minutes after her grandmother and I hugged my daughter goodbye and left her alone in the massive Third Avenue North freshman dorm at New York University in Manhattan, I opened my purse to discover that I had some of her important documents.
We were already in a cab bound for our hotel, and she didn’t need the documents immediately, so I promised to take them to her the next evening, after she returned from the day’s Welcome Week activities at Madison Square Garden and after I finished watching the day matches at the US Open.
Now, according to my son, whose tennis lessons have cost me the equivalent of a Mercedes, I “suck” at tennis. But I’m quite possibly the best in the world at watching tennis, especially in beautiful weather. It was a spectacular day. John Isner, the former University of Georgia star, won his match. Rafael Nadal and his muscles meanered past me as I sat eating lunch. The perpetually orange Nick Bollettieri hit on me but backed away quickly when he realized I was not interested in becoming wife number nine. I saw James Blake take the first two sets of his match.
At the end of Blake’s second set, my daughter called to say that I needed to vacate my expensive seat at the US Open immediately to go search my hotel room for her lost credit card.
“But I straightened up the room after you left, and I didn’t see your credit card.”
“Just go look, Mom.”
“Can I wait until James Blake is finished playing?”
“I’m really worried that my card got stolen. Please just go look now.”
I left the US Open, warily trudging past the huge signs warning that there was no re-entry after I exited the grounds. And of course, as soon as I passed the point of no re-entry, I got a text from my daughter saying she’d found the credit card.
But she still needed her opening week schedule and vouchers. So when the shuttle from the Open dropped me off at my hotel, I jumped into a cab and told the driver to take me to Third and Eleventh.
I got to her dorm, walked into the lobby, and called to tell her I was there. She came downstairs, took her papers, and thanked me.
“Do you want me to take you to dinner?” I asked, fully expecting her to jump at the invitation. Her response brought back memories of a little squirrel I hadn’t thought about in years.
When we were teenagers, my brother, Beau, found a baby squirrel in the woods. He brought it home, and my mother helped him bottle feed the tiny, hairless rodent, much to the consternation of our dachshund, Tubbs. It was against the natural order of things, heretical even, for a dachshund’s family to harbor a squirrel, the bane of every dachshund’s existence.
Beau named the squirrel Sammy, and he grew into a fine-looking adult squirrel who seemed to love living in our screened porch. He spent his days jumping from the porch swing to the screened sides of the porch and climbing up and down the screened walls.He loved my mom and my brother, perching on their shoulders to eat and cocking his cute little head sideways when they talked to him.
But one day my parents broke the sad news to Beau that Sammy was grown. It was time to for him to make his way in the wild. They took the squirrel outside to the woods behind out house, and they set him down. The second his little feet hit the ground, Sammy took off.
So yesterday when I offered to feed her, my daughter tilted her head to the side, considering my invitation. And then she said, “Well, I already kind of had a papaya smoothie, and my friends are waiting for me upstairs. So I guess not.” I hugged her goodbye and watched her disappear back into her dorm.
And like Sammy the squirrel, my girl never looked back.









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Great post, as we prepare to send Child #1 to [gasp] High School tomorrow!
And unlike all those bird metaphors that involve spreading wings and flying away, I prefer the squirrel idea, where they run off, turn and look back, run off, bonk into the lightpost that’s been in the yard for years, and, let’s not forget, shove food in their mouths in case of a long, hard….couple of hours.
Happy End of Summer!
I love hearing NYU move-in stories from a parent’s perspective! I graduated from there in 2008 and was a RA, so I’ve been a part of many move-in days from the other side
Sounds like you raised your daughter with a lot of confidence and I hope she enjoyed Third North!
Ahhhhh. My mom gave me some sage advice one time when I had a similar moment with my son. She looked at me as we loaded him onto the school bus and he never looked back. She said, “Cherish these moments, because in the future you will think you’re rid of him, and he’ll come home…and he won’t be alone”. LOL
A baby squirrel came to my lingerie shower, tucked (appropriately enough) in the bra of one of my guests. He’d been found by my friends on FSU campus and brought to a professor for evaluation. The professor’s opinion was that the little guy was toast, so that’s what they called him.
Unfortunately Toast didn’t have the happy ending Sammy did, but he is remembered fondly.
ahhh, she’ll come back.. they always do.
Just droppin by to say Hellurrrrr (: Hope all is well your way my Blogging Buddy!
I had a hard enough time when I dropped my wee me off at kindergarten last month. I take it it does not get easier. Ah!
lol mine started 8th grade this year and that is so hard … the moment that they begin to separate so I think I will probably collapse into a heap when this happens! What a GOOD Mom you are!
Oh. Heartache time. I had a chipmunk we raised from babyhood who totally betrayed us like that, too. The little bugger. We had him for 3 years and still he flew the coop the minute we opened the cage door in the woods. This was a great story – ya beez a goot writer!